Breaking Free
November 25, 2007
I’m finally free from the imprisionment that is a love lost. I have NSN to thank, for truly opening my eyes to the person he actually is. I no longer wish to pursue anything with him - friendship included - after tonight.
Last night it was established that he would take the money he owes me to my family house, since yesterday he was “unable” to come to my apartment as his car “wouldn’t work on the highway”. I called him at 5pm today, after doing most of my Christmas shopping at Wal-Mart with my mom. I asked him when he was planning on coming over to give me the money. He said “Oh, I’m not coming over…I’m leaving soon…for work…I thought you wanted me to directly deposit it into your account?”
No know you effing don’t. I clearly stated I wanted it dropped off, in person. I clearly said I needed to speak with him regarding the rest of the money (since he wasn’t able to afford paying it all back - which is fine, or was). I chewed him out, and threatened to come down and get it myself. He knew that one of my parents would obviously accompany me since I don’t have a license, so he said he would drive it down.
Half an hour later, he still hadn’t left. He told me he was leaving in “five minutes”. Another half an hour goes by, and Fuzz came over to hang out with me. I called NSN again because Fuzz and I wanted to go out, but I needed the money. NSN said he was 20 minutes away. This is 30 minutes after the second phone call I made. Twenty-five minutes later, he still hadn’t pulled into my driveway…so I gave him yet another call. Fuzz and I wanted to leave. I couldn’t leave until NSN showed up.
NSN told me he had “left it in my mailbox”. I said “well that was brave of you”, and he hung up on me. I tried to call him back to tell him he still needed to pick up his dad’s weed wacker, but he picked up and hung up on me…then turned his cell phone off. When Fuzz and I left, we stopped at the mailbox to find the money tossed inside carelessly - not even in an effing enevelope. Thanks jackass.
I am honestly stunned that NSN turned out the way he did…to not even have the curtosy to break up with me in person OR give me the money he owes me in person. He can’t spare me 5 minutes on the phone and everytime I speak to him he is a complete asshole to me. So I texted him and said “You will give me all the money you owe me, then you will eff right off out of my life.” I mean it. There are no remaining feelings left, and I could care less now that we have ended so badly. It was his own fault.
Anyways, that rant aside…Fuzz and I went and saw American Gangster. It was a really good movie; very gory though. While we were chilling, we obviously started to talk about the recent problems in our life (Fuzz just suffered a disappointment from the girl he likes screwing him over for some drug dealer guy - she’s a “recovering cokehead”, enough said) and I asked Fuzz if he was shocked that NSN turned out the way he did. Fuzz said “To be honest, no. I’ve had a feeling he was going to pull something like this since I first met him. Something didn’t sit well with me.” When I asked why he didn’t tell me, Fuzz said because I seemed so happy and he didn’t want to ruin it by assumptions.
So we now have a pact, I will tell him if the girls he dates are drug addicted bitches and he will tell me if the guys I date are scumbags.
November 25th, 2007 at 1:44 am
< ![CDATA[Well, at least you did get the money.
Its also good that you have someone who will tell you when a guy your dating is a scumbag... the question of course, will you listen???
Most girls don't.]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 1:47 am
< ![CDATA[NYCWD; I barely got a quarter of it back. And I can’t say for sure if I would listen to a friend telling me the guy I am seeing is a scumbag, but I will most certainly heed their concerns and approach things cautiously…especially after this.]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 1:48 am
< ![CDATA[Well that sounds just a tad infuriating :( But I agree with NYCWD--it's a good thing you got the money (or at least some of it). If he still owes more and "can't afford" to pay it back, make him pay it in agreed upon installments. That's how I'm slowly but surely getting back a 4-digit sum of money from my ex.
Can I borrow your scumbag detector sometime? :P]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 1:52 am
< ![CDATA[Only a quarter!!!!!!!!!
Oh hell no. You need to get it ALL back. Don't let him get away with that crap!
He really is a scumbag.]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 8:32 am
< ![CDATA[Yeah, you need to get his mother to get on his case about giving the rest of the money to you.
And at least you get to see his real colors - it's better that you didn't waste more time on this relationship.]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 11:37 am
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And I would gladly agree to allowing him to pay it back in small agreed installments, but the fucker won’t answer his phone and is a complete lying sack of shit so this makes it difficult! lol.
NYCWD; I really won’t, even if I have to break bones I’ll get that money back lol. I’m like a gangster, if you owe me money you best be paying it or else you’ll swim with the fishes!
Avitable; I don’t want to hurt his mothers feelings, I like her a lot and she doesn’t know the extent of idiot her son is. She will feel the need to pay it all back, and she can’t afford that and shouldn’t have to worry about it. I’m glad I see the real colours too, I wasted FAR too much time on him.]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 12:43 pm
< ![CDATA[I was just going to suggest you going all gangster on him to get back your money, but you've already thought of it. It's perfect timing though, you can take influence from American Gangster.]]>
November 25th, 2007 at 10:54 pm
< ![CDATA[I know you don't want to hear this right now, but...
In general, if someone wants you to "lend" them money for something, be sure you can afford it without using a credit card. That way, if the person never pays you back, you are not paying interest.
In general, if someone asks to borrow money from you, consider it a gift, especially if you care about the friendship.
In general, distrust anyone who habitually wants to borrow money from you, unless he or she is trying to pay for a donor organ. Money should rarely be introduced into a friendship. It causes problems almost every time.
Notice I said "in general."
Glad you are getting over NSN. Will check back often and see how you are doing.]]>