Irritated.
January 30, 2007
Even though we came from the same two people, it’s startling to see how very different my sisters and I are. For instance, they always call me immature for my sense of humour and the fact that I joke around often. Okay, so maybe I am immature in that aspect, but at least I’m mature where it counts.
I know Josephine is only 14 and she has a lot of growing to do, but her recent behaviour towards one girl has been getting on my nerves. This Hayley character used to be friends with Josephine - she was over during the summer and attended our family gathering pool party. Yeah, I’ll admit that I didn’t like her. I found the mere fact that she flirted nonstop with my 29 year old cousin, my dad and my then boyfriend very irritating. I found her attitude rather annoying as she was always searching for attention - mostly from men. That’s a bad habit to get into, espeically so young.
I guess Josephine decided in September that Hayley was no longer her friend. I get that, I wouldn’t be tight with that girl either - she’ll only get into trouble and bring Josephine down with her if she continues in that distructive path. Since September, Josephine has been telling me stories about Hayley and why she hates her.
Josephine will no longer wear her coat because “that fucking bitch” bought the same one. Hayley also has the same sweater, same back, and recently - same haircut. It pisses Josephine off because she’s “copying her style”. Josephine told my dad about it in the car when he picked us up after our exam. “Dad, I hate Hayley. She has the same haircut as me.” Obviously my dad couldn’t help but laugh. He’s a dad, he wouldn’t understand trivial girl things like that. Hell, I don’t even understand trivial girl things like that, and last time I checked I’m still a girl.
Recently Josephine’s MSN name has changed to “watch your back you fucking tramp, you’re gonna get fucking smashhed!” When I asked her about the name, she told me it was towards Hayley. I sort of lectured her about it, because saying things like that is stupid and immature. Fighting and smashing peoples faces in gets you no where in life. I tried to make Josephine see a little bit of this girls side.
Not only did she lose a friend, but Josephine’s sucessfully managed to ensure that all of their mutual friends hate Hayley too. Personally, I think this whole copying Jo thing is Hayley’s attempt at winning her friendship back, or at least getting some attention from other people. Josephine really is quite pretty and very popular in school, it comes as no surprise to me that somebody is copying her style. Dad and I both tried to get her to talk to Hayley about the whole situation instead of retaliating this way but she blew up at us both. She perfers this method - a method that could seriously fuck a person up.
It irritates me that someone who cried during that low budget film called Odd Girl Out staring Alexa Vega would treat somebody this way. Yes, Hayley might not be a desireable person in terms of friendship - she constantly back stabbed Josephine during their short flight at friendship by stealing boyfriends and what not - but this is ridiculous. I’m afraid Josephine will do something stupid, and end up having all her current friends hate her and side with the other girl.
Or worse, cause considerable damage to Hayley. I don’t like the girl, but I don’t wish bullying on anybody - especially this kind of bullying. The kind of bullying that turns ones friends against you, makes you feel completely isolated and alone. The kind of bullying in Odd Girl Out that made Josephine cry everytime she watched it because she felt the girls pain. How come she can’t feel this girls pain? I can even see it. Today she was in the lunchroom and I’m pretty sure the girls with her were warning her about Josephine’s anger towards her haircut. She tried to act like she didn’t care, like it didn’t bother her but it did - you could tell by the look in her eyes.
Josephine is the type of person who won’t listen to reason. She is the type of person who finds things out the hard way, and even then who won’t learn her lesson to the full extent that most people will. If she does, she doesn’t show it and goes right back to being the way she was before whatever situation blew up in her face. I’m worried because this isn’t the kind of attitude to have, the kind of person to be. It’s difficult to sit back and watch all this happening and not be able to say anything to prevent it because she’d just get mad.
January 30th, 2007 at 2:21 pm
< ![CDATA[It's tough, but in the end, you can only suggest things for her to do. When she won't and does something her way, if it comes back and bites her in the ass, it's not your fault. You've done everything you can.]]>
January 30th, 2007 at 3:14 pm
< ![CDATA[You're a good sister for caring and although you've tried to steer her in the right direction, ultimately she's the one who has to choose her actions. It will most likely come back and blow up in her face if she continues so I guess you'll have to step up again and comfort her. You're obviously very mature and one smart cookie! ;)]]>
January 30th, 2007 at 5:29 pm
< ![CDATA[True say Avitable, true say. It's just difficult to watch her do those things.
And Sassy, thanks - but if you only knew the truth lol just kidding =)]]>
January 30th, 2007 at 10:15 pm
< ![CDATA[i am definately glad jo is not my sister. or that my sister doesnt act like that. i would want to kick her [my sisters] ass.
sometimes the only way for people to learn is the hard way. jo will realize when her friends leave her, and no one likes her, that you were right all this time. Stupid petty fights over hairstyles will get her no where in life.
you did what you could.
simple as that.]]>